Relationships take effort, but effort is different from pressuring someone to stay or trying to make yourself feel something you do not feel. Both people need room to choose the relationship freely.
Look at the pattern of participation
Always making plans or apologizing first may be worth discussing, but neither habit proves a relationship is forced. Consider whether the arrangement is agreed, whether your concerns are heard and whether both people contribute in ways that matter to you.
Respect a no
Gifts, persistence and emotional appeals do not create an obligation to return affection. Sexual interest can vary, and no one should be persuaded or pressured into intimacy as proof of love. A refusal is not a challenge to overcome.
Ask what each person wants
You might say: “I feel I am driving most of our plans. Do you want to continue this relationship, and what would participation look like for you?” Choose a conversation only when it feels safe. If someone has already ended the relationship, respect that decision.
Be honest with yourself too
Ask whether you enjoy the relationship as it is, whether you are staying mainly to avoid disappointing someone and whether the changes you want are realistic. You do not need a checklist to grant you permission to leave.
If both people want to continue, agree on one specific change and revisit it. If the answer is no or the pattern remains unacceptable to you, stepping back is an available choice. A soulmate label cannot replace mutual consent.