Less time together can feel painful, but working late, needing solitude or wanting less sex does not prove your husband has stopped loving you. A change is a reason to ask questions, not a reliable diagnosis of the marriage.
Describe what has changed
Choose an observation such as “We have not had an evening together for several weeks” rather than “You are avoiding me on purpose.” Consider practical pressures and invite his account. You do not have to guess correctly before starting a conversation.
Ask for a specific form of connection
Try: “I miss having uninterrupted time together. Could we choose a time to talk about what we both need?” Shared meals, a short walk or a planned conversation may suit you; none is a universal test of love.
Keep affection and consent separate from obligation
Marriage does not create a duty to have sex, share a bed or accept touch. Discuss closeness and preferences without using sexual activity as proof of commitment. A change in desire can have different explanations and should not automatically be treated as evidence of cheating.
Evaluate the response over time
Does your partner listen, explain what is realistic and participate in agreed changes? Repeated dismissal or boundary violations deserve attention even if you cannot establish a motive. You can seek suitable support or reconsider the relationship.
If you fear retaliation, threats or coercion, prioritize individual help rather than a confrontation. The Hotline’s relationship guidance can help distinguish respect and autonomy from controlling behaviour.